How can I get the IP address of someone I'm instant messaging, and does it actually identify them?

Find out the Country (Location) of the person you are chatting with.

http://cybergurus.wordpress.com/2008/05/19/find-out-the-county-location-of-the-person-you-are-chatting-with/

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